Anna Faris is a work in progress.
The actor, 45, recently opened up in an interview with Chelsea Handler on the Handler podcast, dear chelseaabout her post-divorce life and how she is “still learning” to accept love in her life.
“Being a stepmother… I’m still learning. I really am,” she explained of being co-parent to her new husband Michael Barrett’s two children, whom he has from a previous relationship. “I felt at first that I wanted to be kind of wild and new and reckless in their lives because I was also going through a divorce.”
Faris married cinematographer Barrett in 2021 after meeting him in the film. To the sea.
She was previously married to Chris Pratt, before they divorced in October 2018. She and Pratt share a son, Jack, 9. Prior to Pratt, she was married to actor Ben Indra until their divorce in 2008.
Reflecting on how her separation from Indra changed her perspective on life, Faris acknowledged that “there is this kind of change that happens” after divorce.
“It was strong the first time,” she explained. “I turned into someone I didn’t recognize. Like, I’ve always been the type of person who fills my fridge — and I’ve hosted a lot of dinner parties. That was when I had friends. But then [post-divorce] I found myself in this apartment with only beer and mustard in the fridge, and I was leaving all the time. I didn’t have anyone to text or call to say, ‘Hey, can I do this?’ It was incredibly freeing, and I went back to, like, when I was 17.”
Speaking of the intimate relationship she has with herself now, Faris admits it’s a “slow grow” when it comes to accepting love from others – which she can date back to her childhood.
“I was terrified of not being a good lover, especially when I was younger,” she said. “I was so self-aware of my body. I didn’t want anyone to see it, but I danced around the edges. I wanted desperately to be wanted.”
“My mother never complimented my physical appearance,” she explained. “I started so late – I had chubby cheeks, I wore a helmet for years. I think my parents did this to me because they wanted me to remain a virgin,” adding, “that was one of the struggles of my life for sure.”
Faris’ eagerness to please people, combined with a desire to be desired by men, inspired her to make changes to her body to meet these needs.
“I just got fake boobs and I bleached my hair. That was my strategy,” she said, adding that while it is easy for her to accept praise about her work and accomplishments, it is still difficult to accept praise about her appearance. “In Hollywood, if you’re in one thing and everyone’s looking good and someone says, ‘I think you look so good,’ I can’t absorb it very well. It’s a little too much.”
After her second divorce, however, Faris says “it’s been easier” to accept love, although she adds, “I still kind of struggle with it.”
While Faris is still learning the ups and downs of being a stepmother, she’s also been open about the realities of coparenting with Pratt. Earlier this year, in his podcast Unqualifiedshe spoke openly about the difficulties.
“Chris and I worked really hard [to coparent] because we have Jack,” she said. “That’s kind of a long game idea and making sure Jack is really happy, which makes us very happy. We have a kind of luxury of circumstances. You know, we’re both in other romantic relationships, but it’s like, how do you not, in general, sink into a place of bitterness?”
While she admits that raising a child with her ex has its challenges, at the end of the day, she wants the best for everyone.
“I want to reiterate though, that I recognize, we all recognize, we all recognize, that there is bitterness and pain in every breakup, and that makes us more human,” she explained. “But the game is long, and it’s just the worst being the bigger person. It just is. It sucks! Until then, what [matters most] is that everyone is happy.”
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