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As more details of the derogatory treatment meted out to Prince Harry and Meghan Markle during their visit to the UK to celebrate the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee continued to emerge this week, it has become painfully apparent that relations between Harry and Meghan are on one side. , and his The English family, on the other hand, is at an all-time low.
It might just have been the exhaustion of traveling with two jet-lagged kids, but Harry’s thunderous face as he was photographed arriving home from a private jet in California seemed to provide a vivid illustration of his mood after the party he and his wife had been in. wife were. both invited and uninvited.
William’s failure to meet in person privately with his brother, and William’s family’s decision to travel to Cardiff rather than attend Lilibet’s first birthday party, is further confirmation, should the broken relationship between Harry and his brother were far from cured. .
Casual insults meted out to the Sussexes include being banned from taking a photograph of his daughter with her grandmother, a series of conspicuous non-invitations for his absence to any events where they might be photographed alongside HM, and the failure of either of Harry’s close contacts. family for Lilibet’s birthday party. As any parent knows, it’s when people take it out on their children that it hurts the most.
Harry and Meghan’s heady exit from the celebrations early – they left on Sunday just before the final event; the queen’s climactic appearance on the balcony of Buckingham Palace – angered the royals and was perceived by them as a display of attention-seeking petulance, at least according to a friend who told The Daily Beast: “So much so as not to overshadow the queen. Would she have killed them to wait a few hours?”
Actual author Christopher Andersen told The Daily Beast that the effect of the weekend, which at times appeared to be devoted to blatantly avoiding the couple, was only to make matters worse.
“The excuse thrown up by the palace for its low profile, that this was supposed to be all about the queen and no one wanted to distract from it, falls apart. By blatantly giving the Sussexes the cold shoulder, the royals have just poured gasoline on the fire. Now everyone is speculating about the ongoing feud between Charles and the Cambridges on the one hand and Harry and Meghan on the other.”
He thinks, however, that Harry and Meghan might be naive if they thought they would be treated with respect.
Ultimately, when it comes to Harry and Meghan, all the Jubilee has proved is that neither side is ready to compromise, let alone apologize.
Anger and outrage are still the dominant emotions on both sides – and at the root of it all is the interview the couple gave to Oprah Winfrey, in which they alleged many and varied mistreatment and disrespect from the palace, including a royal. senior who questioned the then-unborn Archie’s skin color.
“The queen’s ‘memories may vary’ comment ‘did not go unnoticed by the couple, who a source close to said was ‘not surprised’ that full ownership was not taken.’”
— From ‘Finding Freedom’
The Sussexes’ position is that they simply told the truth about what happened and the way they were treated. They see the decision not to name the individual as less inflammatory, and their supporters argue that it gave the royals an opportunity to take on the issue of racism against Harry and Meghan within the family and deal with it.
Instead, the queen dismissed the entire affair, saying, witheringly, “Some memories may vary.” No one, unsurprisingly, heard anything further on the palace affair, despite the queen’s promise to interrogate the allegations; she said they were “taken very seriously and will be addressed by the family privately”.
In an extra chapter added to an updated version of the couple’s sympathetic biography, finding freedom, Omid Scobie and Caroly Durand wrote: “The Queen’s ‘memories may vary’ comment ‘did not go unnoticed by the couple, who a close source said were ‘not surprised’ that full ownership was not taken.’ Months later and little responsibility has been taken,” added a friend of Meghan’s. ‘How can you move on from this?”
While royal friends privately concede that it would be far from uncommon for one of several royals to say something deeply inappropriate about the skin color of Meghan’s babies, they insist that such a comment would have been made out of ignorance rather than malice. This part of the argument is unconvincing and, of course, racist in itself.
However, the additional, perhaps more credible argument made by Windsor supporters is that, by choosing not to name the person who made the remark, the Sussexes unfairly placed the entire family under a cloud of suspicion based on the racism of a person.
However, the unity with which the Windsors rallied is extraordinary – the controversy even brought William and Charles closer together – and the Jubilee was a very visual demonstration of that.
Paddington Bear was, of course, one of the Jubilee stars. There is a scene in this film where the explorer who refused to kill Paddington’s family to allow a specimen to be collected is kicked out of his London club by his outraged colleagues, one of whom utters the words: “Geographers, turn your back ”.
Something like this happened to Harry and Meghan. It’s been going on for two years, but Jubilee was the first real, physical portrayal of her outcast status. Of the real blood HRHs, they only now seem to have the support of Beatrice and Eugenie York, who know all too well the pain of being excluded from the family and are just minors anyway. characters in the royal soap, having been sacked as a member of working royalty and stripped of his security several years ago by Prince Charles.
Andersen said: “Harry and Meghan clearly did not expect the wall of resistance they encountered from what is obviously a tightly knit and still seething royal family. It’s not really surprising though. Why extend an olive branch when in a matter of months there could be new bombs detonated in Harry’s memories?
“The royal family appeared to be offering an olive branch, but it turned out to be a baseball bat.”
Duncan Larcombe, biographer of Prince Harry and former royal editor of the Sun, told The Daily Beast: “The choreography of being seated behind the Duke of Gloucester in the church service is very revealing and will not have gone unnoticed by either Meghan or Harry. The feud continues, and we know this because if this feud had ended, you can be sure we would have been told about it; a family photo would have been issued, or William and Harry could have been photographed dancing together on Saturday night. None of this happened. It would hardly be possible to imagine this in advance, but the Jubilee really made matters worse. The royal family appeared to be offering an olive branch, but it turned out to be a baseball bat.”
In fact, things are so bad between the two families that the Daily Beast has heard mounting speculation that Meghan might never be able to return to the UK.
The Daily Beast understands that Harry is expected to definitely return to important state affairs. This would include the hopefully distant occasion of his grandmother’s funeral, and it is likely that he will also be present at his father’s coronation, despite rumors that he may not be, not least because he will likely remain a councilor of state (one of the four adults who can step in to represent the monarch in case of disability) until Prince George reaches the age of majority, and so while his presence is not necessary for the coronation, it would certainly be appropriate.
It’s hard to imagine what attractions Meghan would see when making the long journey again, however, after a weekend in which she was trolled by the press, belittled by her family and booed by some members of the public.
Friends of Charles told The Daily Beast that he is devastated by the breakup with his youngest son and desperately wants to repair relations, but the royal establishment’s failure to actually do anything about the last weekend was staggering. The decision not to telegraph in any way that Harry and Meghan were indeed, as the Queen described, still “much loved members” of the family was remarkable.
Instead, Harry and Meghan were hidden, transported from place to place out of public view.
While palace sources are unwilling to tell The Daily Beast whether or not Harry and Meghan were invited to the show on Saturday night or the pageant on Sunday afternoon, it seems unlikely as they were firmly and deliberately excluded from everyone. the events. great family group photos.
“Archie took a picture with the Queen and Prince Philip when he was two days old. Denying this to Lily on her first birthday seems needlessly petty.”
— Christopher Andersen
“The palace didn’t want to give Archewell another decade of legitimacy with pictures of them and the queen and Lilibet with the queen,” says Larcombe.
But for Harry and Meghan, renewing their association with the Crown was likely a key factor in their decision to attend and their daughter’s birthright.
As Andersen says: “Archie took a picture with the Queen and Prince Philip when he was two days old. Denying this to Lily on her first birthday seems needlessly petty. The queen could have rejected her keepers on this issue, and of course she could have allowed the Sussexes to appear on the balcony with the rest of the family at some point during the Jubilee. This was a historic event and deleting Harry and Meghan from the visual record feels wrong.”
It also seems a long way from being a peace offering.