You may have heard that actor Michael B. Jordan and skin care aficionado Lori Harvey are no longer an item. The couple, who had been dating for a year and a half, announced their separation in an exclusive for People through a “source” (probably an advertiser) on the weekend. And since yesterday, Harvey has erased all evidence of the Belief star of your Instagram. Of course, Harvey’s stepfather Steve Harvey also weighed in.
The internet has made a big meal out of this news in recent days. While the People The article didn’t reveal who started the breakup, the immediate assumption on social media was that Jordan did something stupid (i.e. cheated), and Harvey quickly dropped his ass. It didn’t help that the official Chase Center Twitter account posted a video of the 35-year-old actor sitting on the court at an NBA Finals game on Sunday, where he looked, well, not happy.
Now thanks to another People exclusive, we’re finding out that Harvey allegedly called off the relationship after realizing she and Jordan weren’t “on the same page” while the couple was “making plans for the future.” Whether it was Jordan’s or Harvey’s representative who passed this information to the press several days after the Black Panther If you’re being mocked and labeled a scoundrel on social media, you can decide. Regardless, the revelation that Harvey, a 25-year-old woman, didn’t want to settle down with her 35-year-old boyfriend sparked a wave of sympathy for Jordan on social media from, you guessed it, a lot of men.
Well, for the most part. Yesterday, a Twitter account that appears to be run by a woman created a wireoffering men a “safe space” and asking them to share “a time [they] it was in public after a breakup” and “had to fight back tears the whole time” – apparently in response to Jordan’s clip at the basketball game. The question garnered thousands of responses, as men mostly reported having to go to work or a family event the next day to have their hearts broken, as if it was a new experience that only happens to men.
Some of the stories were actually quite funny. But that was hardly the end of a bunch of random men making an influencer’s decision to leave their boyfriend on themselves and framing it as a cautionary tale of women being autonomous creatures.
“But that was hardly the end of a bunch of random men making an influencer’s decision to leave their boyfriend on themselves and framing it as a cautionary tale of women being autonomous creatures.”
In a tweet citing a video Jordan filmed of an elaborate date at the aquarium he planned for Harvey last Valentine’s Day, a Twitter user dramatically he wrote, “Men, Lori Harvey must be a lesson to you, if she wants to stay, she will. If she doesn’t, it doesn’t matter if you donate all her organs and drain her blood to her, she will leave you for lack of organs and blood. Don’t break your back, don’t worry.”
Amidst a string of condemning comments, a Twitter user also implied that the Black Panther actor “move[d] mountains” for Harvey. Other joked that Jordan “didn’t know” that Harvey was “already married to the game”. Someone even invoked reincarnation to explain Harvey’s new single life, tweet, “Lori Harvey must have come to this world to get revenge on all the men who wronged her in her past life. That’s it. That is [the] tweet”.
The characterization of Harvey online as a gold digger (as if the Harvey family trust is low on cash) or a professional girlfriend at best is not new. When the SKN founder came into the spotlight in 2017, she was engaged to Dutch football player Memphis Depay, from whom she split in 2018. Harvey has since dated or been seen on what appeared to be dates with high-profile men like her son. Diddy’s eldest Justin Combs, eventually Diddy, Trey Songz and Future. The fact that Harvey has been linked to a number of men and not dressed like a nun — being the stepdaughter of a man who is notoriously doling out conservative dating advice to women — has shaken viewers on social media for confusing, mostly sexist, reasons. .
As such, the internet has been strangely smug in crafting narratives about Harvey and her motivations for dating other famous people, something she was tight-lipped about until very recently. Even the women who applaud her “agitation” and project a feminist angle on her romantic life are inadvertently putting on a spectacle of a 25-year-old whose refusal to be tied down seems healthy and, more importantly, normal.
You could say that Twitter making Jordan look like Sad Ben Affleck 2.0 or speculating about his role in his uncoupling is another example of the public pushing their limits with people they don’t know, though he never experiences the burden of being a slut – embarrassed or having people defaming him for not settling down with a woman as he is approaching 40.
Despite all of the irritating reactions online, it’s strangely an achievement that Jordan and Harvey have managed to get the public emotionally invested in their split after having their relationship initially dismissed as a publicity stunt. And I’m sure, as celebrities who thrive financially on attention, the answer is somewhat in the affirmative. Let’s all not be weird about a 25-year-old woman’s romantic life for the first time.